tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395321196357413060.post2055534558277392208..comments2023-04-21T10:13:44.957-07:00Comments on Adventures in plodding: Anyone wanna listen to me ramble?Susanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15051454289335131940noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395321196357413060.post-51978768053896337042011-07-30T09:58:40.085-07:002011-07-30T09:58:40.085-07:00Beautiful. Especially about the relationship part...Beautiful. Especially about the relationship part. A lot of ladies on SMO get on you if you don't get to know your IP's before moving forward but like you, I wanted to test the waters and just see where it would go, because you just never know how your relationship will be EVEN if you have standards and preferences...Well said, I appreciate you calling it like it is.GHALEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17873292031925241796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5395321196357413060.post-64045073634357540562011-07-29T15:56:35.422-07:002011-07-29T15:56:35.422-07:00Well said. When I first met each of my IF's I ...Well said. When I first met each of my IF's I was very up front with them about the fact that I didn't know what kind of relationship I wanted with them after it was all said and done. I love them both, and was so happy to grow a set of twins for each of them, but I'm closer to my first IF than the second. My first IF surprised me recently with books of pics of the kids for each of the past two years (I already have an album from their first year)...it thrills me that he still thinks of me and includes me in their life. With my second IF, I only see a pic of the girls every 4-6 months, but I don't hesitate to text and tell him that I'm thinking of them...he's busy, I'm busy. We love each other dearly and will always have a connection, but we don't have really regular contact. I don't understand trying to negotiate everything up front when you have no idea how things will turn out. Even if I had no contact post-birth, I'd still feel good about what I did, and know that two men were happy because of what I did for them.flyinglowundertheradarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08386317188031716020noreply@blogger.com