Friday, August 3, 2012

Vaginal birth after 85(ish) c-sections? U crazy lady.

So with my own kids I was a natural birth freak.  Loved labor.  Never took a med.  Delivered at home once before the midwife got there...yadda, yadda, yadda. 

Along comes the first set of surro-twins....placenta previa (undiagnosed), lots of bleeding, hey how about a c-section so you don't die right now.  Yes please. 

Twin set number two.  VBAC...sure...but we don't really mean it we are just telling you that.  When you are in labor in the hospital we will section you unless you want to argue with us in front of your IFs.  Section please. 

Surro singleton number 1:  VBAC...yes please.  Labor for hours.  No progress.  Labor some more.  No progress....oops baby is breech and sunny side up and not pushing on cervix and besides cervix is still pissed off about being called incompetent last time so he's not giving up an inch of dilation.  Fast forward 12ish hours.  No dilation.  No meds.  C-section...yes please.

So you can understand my skepticism today when VBAC was brought up.  I wanted to say, "Lady there's not a snowball's chance in hell that I am ending up with a vaginal birth and you know it but if you want to play modern in touch OB, knock your socks off.  Sure I'll take a VBA3C because you and I both know the hospital will be so supportive of that."  If it were my own kid I would fight for it but yeah...so not thinking my IF who is an ER and ICU physician will be considering this.  So I will say VBAC please while in my heart I know it will be another section. 

Honestly at this point it's whatever.  If the guys get a healthy baby and I don't die, we'll call it all good, retire the severely overused uterus and ride off into the sunset where all good surrogates go. 

5 comments:

  1. You are summing up my biggest fear in surrogacy. You are dead on with your sarcasm. The whole lets say VBAC and then let you argue about it in front of your IF's while in labor... I've never had a c-section but I know it's likely to be one of those, of course you can do a vaginal twin birth until we get the the hospital where they will say one is in the wrong position or the heart rate is too low etc... and then if it were my kid I would tell them to unplug the monitor and please just let me give birth (or do it in a birthing center or home where they mean for vaginal birth for real) but arguing with the hospital staff in front of the IF doesn't sound like fun! Good luck with this attempt at VBAC in a hospital setting, seriously.

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    1. It's exactly what happened with my second set of twins. The doc and I had planned a vbac, talked about it, etc., and when I showed up in labor she acted like it was something new she had never heard of. I stood there with my mouth open glaring at her while my guys just looked confused. Call me crazy but i refuse to ruin their birth experience just so I can have the one I want so I consented. It's not a fun situation to be in.

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  2. I hope you get to give it a go! I've never heard of VBA3C...if anyone can do it, you can! You're awesome like that!

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    1. You have never heard of it because it doesn't exist. Uterine rupture...blah blah blah. I know exactly what the hospital will say so I'm not falling for this line like I did the last two times. I'm ok with the section. It will be my last and I recover quickly and it will all be fine.

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  3. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Cl-PtSxqBo

    Good Luck! :)

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